tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.comments2009-12-06T16:19:37.996-05:00djhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05160919323511463583noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-6219850128307711202009-12-06T16:19:37.996-05:002009-12-06T16:19:37.996-05:00Yes, a divorce is like death. I have been separated before, thinking divorce was on my door step. But hope stepped in and our relationship healed. It was a miracle. But not everyone has that miracle and that&#39;s ok too. God will guide you and he NEVER leaves you. He&#39;ll never leave either one of you. ((hugs))Sisterlisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09697215030563741501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-1006777801649088572009-11-09T12:34:57.659-05:002009-11-09T12:34:57.659-05:00Hi, I just found your blog through a search for retro mom pictures. <br /><br />I wanted to let you know that I said a prayer for you. <br /><br />Just remember that God has to break us down to build us up. Like iron we need to be put in the fire to become stronger. Although I am not suffering the same heartache, my family and I are struggling. I stopped writing in my blog for the time because, well, just because.<br /><br />I told my Senior girls Sunday School class the other day that God always wonders why He has to make us hit rock bottom before we truly give Him everything.Missyhttp://missylangford.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-75209674385520119662009-10-17T05:47:54.013-04:002009-10-17T05:47:54.013-04:00Why do you use a mix of capitals and lower case letters in your title?<br /><br />That makes you look so fucking ignorant.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-61647636126240030402009-10-05T17:52:56.376-04:002009-10-05T17:52:56.376-04:00:) Glad you&#39;re back on top of your thoughts. control them or they&#39;ll surely control you! <br />love you~<br />TamAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-38763358247766055562009-10-03T11:25:16.267-04:002009-10-03T11:25:16.267-04:00Donna Jane, thanks for sharing as I am in the same boat, living a loveless, sexless relationship and not having where to go. Some times you think you&#39;re the only one and yet now I see by your sharing you were in the same boat. I don&#39;t want to wait 20 years until my kids grow up, I only pray God will help me to find the way to leave and start afresh. I hope your new beginnings bring peace, joy and wonder to your life.Mariannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12048543324922093998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-64934521373068089122009-10-01T20:43:59.580-04:002009-10-01T20:43:59.580-04:00Donna Jane, As you know, my 20year marriage ended in divorce last November. <br />I can testify that the experience is like a death, just as you said. Divorce is a darkness like no other and I am not yet fully recovered, nor are my kids, but we get stronger every day. And you will too. <br />I love you. Let me know if I can help, even if its just to listen, as you did for me.<br /><br />...this anonymous is KathyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-88950040344053562802009-10-01T12:40:28.796-04:002009-10-01T12:40:28.796-04:00ok...this anonymous is Katina.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-81621579626038949452009-10-01T12:38:32.525-04:002009-10-01T12:38:32.525-04:00Oh Sister, I ache for you. Wow! I can definitely share some insight and encouragement. It does get better...and there is a YOU in there somewhere, even though her identity may have been as &quot;Darin&#39;s wife&quot; for so long that you may not recognize her. You are all in my prayers and I will be in touch!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-44999276871677679792009-10-01T12:15:42.798-04:002009-10-01T12:15:42.798-04:00Oh Donna Jane... my heart aches and I find your words the same as mine when I whisper alone to myself. At times I feel I am the only one and alone in feeling this way. With my husband &amp; I, its either very good or very bad. And &quot;very good&quot; meaning - he&#39;s not hating *me* for *his* actions. He is so quick to apologize over things he has absolutely no control over but NEVER apologizes over what he *does* have control over. He doesn&#39;t *have to* curse me. He doesn&#39;t *have to* shove and push me. He doesn&#39;t *have to* be easily angered. <br /><br />I am no angel - and never claim to be. All I ever asked him to do - is to love God with all his might and with all of his soul. That.is.it. If he could *do* that - I know I would have the husband that would &quot;love me as Christ loves the church.&quot;<br /><br /><br /><br />&quot;To Love as Christ loves the church.&quot; That&#39;s what it all comes down to.<br /><br /><br />Thoughts,<br />Ruth<br />†Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-58850956832297881982009-10-01T12:09:32.659-04:002009-10-01T12:09:32.659-04:00i dont hv a google acct? only way it would let me post a comment. soooo, for today? i&#39;m anonymous.<br />luv u still.<br />Tammy W.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-18352379809845612592009-10-01T12:08:20.735-04:002009-10-01T12:08:20.735-04:00Donna Jane. Ms.Butterfly.<br />I luv you.<br />TamAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-55765216836928644072009-08-15T05:58:14.762-04:002009-08-15T05:58:14.762-04:00Hey Southern-Mom...First timer here. Wifey left her comment on the wrong story, LOL. I am with Darin...Your wild tales have messed with your children. It&#39;s sort of like some of the tall tales I used to hear (and some of your readers still listen to) at church...IE out of body experiences, trips to heaven...even HELL!... talking with dead saints, even Jesus himself, oh, sorry...This is about something else, Ha!<br /><br />Anyway the impressionable mind is a terrible thing to waste...hehehe Hey! Maybe what they saw was Todd Bentley, Rick Joyner, Bob Jones and a few other of the NAR&#39;s finest on another trip to the third heaven??? I know, I know, I&#39;m stopping now...X-WoF'ernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-60408708876692676042009-08-15T05:38:32.885-04:002009-08-15T05:38:32.885-04:00DJ<br /><br />I am on the computer for the first time in six months great story of the kids <br /><br />L in Z-hills, FLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-39736091236025289532009-06-18T19:05:45.301-04:002009-06-18T19:05:45.301-04:00I wonder if you would consider my book Reflections of a Mississippi Magnolia as one of your selections for your Southern Charm Book club. <br />It is &quot;a true celebration of the south and things southern&quot; In my book, using childhood memories, personal thoughts and dreams, I attempt to give a positive glimpse into the southern way of life.<br />For more info about me and the book you can view my website at<br /><br />www.patricianeelydorsey.webs.comPatricia Neely-Dorseyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05095033716134400535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-73408469446508634322009-05-28T01:49:36.620-04:002009-05-28T01:49:36.620-04:00It's your job as a parent to be consistant, and let your child know from the first time they whine or act badly that their behavior will NOT be tolerated. It might take excluding the child from family activities,and sending them to their room. It lets them know YOU are in charge, and you have decided to spare the rest of the family from the child's bad behavior.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-40079198729156311132009-05-04T07:39:00.000-04:002009-05-04T07:39:00.000-04:00After reading your blog... i felt a connection to you in a way. I'm goin' through the same thing as you are. The way you described your relationship with your husband is exactly like mine now. Sometimes, I'm thinking... maybe the reason why my husband and I "never" do it anymore is because i have gotten fat. And because of that I feel I lost my self esteem and confidence. I feel inferior. Most of all... I feel SAD and ALONE. I have 4 gorgeous kids too. 3 boys and a girl. I love them more than anything in this world. Maybe if not for them... I'm already in a mental institution. It's a sad life. I would like to try to lose the weight I gained (not for my husband) but for myself. For me to feel good about myself again. Good luck to both of us.'eka ni condiang'http://www.blogger.com/profile/06354387039312430646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-4340967064448815712009-03-30T17:08:00.000-04:002009-03-30T17:08:00.000-04:00I had a cat that looked similar to yours. His name was Smokey. He was an adorable cat which is important because I have never been called a cat-lover. He was hit by a car as well. I have 2 cats now, Samson and Gatito (that' Spanish for kitten or little cat). It's always tough to lose a pet you love.CarrollEmersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16239483648805612072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-23897645971237857492009-01-20T03:25:00.000-05:002009-01-20T03:25:00.000-05:00I have missed your blogs! Glad I found them!Parisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-3949631331498006452009-01-19T12:27:00.000-05:002009-01-19T12:27:00.000-05:00I actually have a Ragdoll Cat. We've had three now. Ours is an amazing gray with with touches of white. He stays primarily outdoors, so there's no litterbox, and dander in the house. But we do bring him in and love on him frequently.Chris Cranehttp://www.phatcrazypreacher.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-12978666157501113172009-01-13T22:30:00.000-05:002009-01-13T22:30:00.000-05:00"I really am not like other wives and moms. I have always felt inferior especially when I have friends whom I deem to be "perfect" wives and mothers."--- Donna this is what EVERY wife and mother says-ESPECIALLY those that you deem to be "perfect". There is no such thing. We all mess up; we all wish we could do things better; we all think everyone else has it all figured out, but that is just not the case. I feel like I am always on the journey to improve myself but can never quite reach the prize. However, as I have "aged" I have become a little more accepting of myself, and care very little about what others think. It's quite liberating, actually! We just have to take baby steps along the way and celebrate the little victories of success.<BR/><BR/>Let me also say that you are pretty darn normal! The only difference between you and most wives and mothers is that you have the talent of expressing what you feel in writing. Many women are suffering from the same insecurities, yet cannot put their finger on what is bothering them. We are "fearfully and wonderfully made," and should not be so hard on ourselves. That includes you! Give yourself a break. You deserve it! And remember- take baby steps... <BR/><BR/>Becky MurrayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-49383631098245922562009-01-07T21:08:00.000-05:002009-01-07T21:08:00.000-05:00hi DJ...<BR/>yes...be strong, U can it!! :)<BR/>oh..yes, speaking of sweet little angels who sometimes we feel are devils in disguised..excuse me, hope no offence k?...but that's just how kids are....standard around the world a guess!! <BR/><BR/>ask me... I have a lot!! hahaha...<BR/><BR/>btw,<BR/>DJ,I add ur link in my blog...kyrun _qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14232450409031473943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-84124041899026994292009-01-07T08:51:00.000-05:002009-01-07T08:51:00.000-05:00Donna, There comes a time when we just get to our breaking point, which is where God finally is able to say " Thank you Donna for getting out of my way and letting Me change you- not you change yourself." I reached that point in my life 4 years ago when God gave me a real wake up call. Dont wait untill He slaps you around some to wake you up! Because you might not like how He does it-- Change comes from a real desire-- If you desire it enough and tell God " I cannot do this alone, Please just meet me halfway" and He will meet you and carry you over the finish line! That is the only way I lost 55 pounds. You can want to in your mind, you can want to in your heart and your Spirit man already wants you to, but when you, all 3 parts of you come together( as God has ordained it from the beginning) miracles happen. This applies to all areas of your life, Marriage, Sex(you dont feel sexy when you are overweight), Family, Children etc... God loves us enough that every little thing he cares about. Even when I cant find the matching earring in my jewlery box, Frustrated I have to stop and I pray " Lord, I know this is a stupid request, but pleeeaasse help me find the other stupid earring in this box! ARRRGGHHH" and He does it everytime becuase He knows it is important to me. <BR/>I am not going to give you diet advice, since it was God that showed me the way that works for me. It may not work for others but He prescribed it just for me. And He will do the same for you if you just ask Him and do some research on your own. Fads, Crash and Instant diets dont work for long and they are not good for your system. As Him how to change your thinking. It is a "Battlefield of the Mind" that we live in everyday.<BR/>I can relate to your family issues too, I have a 14 year old that cant stand me either!<BR/>God Bless You and I will be praying for your strength <BR/>God Bless You and your familyI can Relatehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07692546239472762048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-80695209300630394732009-01-07T04:58:00.000-05:002009-01-07T04:58:00.000-05:00What happened was very tragic and I&#39;m sure traumatic for you and your family. I&#39;m so sorry and praying for you &amp; your family - a broken jaw can certainly be caused from a traffic accident however I have seen numerous broken jaws caused from animal abuse. Its so very sad that we even have to consider these things but its reality. As a spokesman for the ASPCA I&#39;m privy to information across the U.S in animal abuse cases.I can&#39;t read this and foresake to share a few things with you. I pray &amp; hope Salem wasnt crying outside someone elses door or window. This happens alot &amp; a dog/or cat can become victim by cruel abusive acts. I have seen it so many times in my workings with ASPCA. Angry owners/Cruel teens/Angry neighbors take a harmless animal and throw against walls, kick/smash with shovels,bats, baseballs defenseless pets in the head, mouth dislocating or completely breaking the pets jaws. Its very sad. Animal cruelity is at an all time high and percentages even higher with Kittys. <BR/>I know you are grieving and I&#39;m sorry to mention these things. However as a citizen &amp; in Salems memory you have a right to report the way you found your kitty and by you reporting this it could save another pets life.<BR/>By filing a report with your city police it will be in the data base and if there are more reported cases in that area of animals being found in the condition Salem was found then action can be taken. Please ask your neighbors if they heard or saw anything? Also pay attention to owners with animals in your neighborhood and have an open ear for the findings of any other animals found dead in compromising positions. <BR/>Salem was beautiful. She likely used her last strength trying to get herself home to where she felt safe - this happens a lot of the time with injuries like these, but her injuries were too severe and she died.One thing that might provide solace is the fact that she wanted to be home with you, and she did not run away or feel afraid of home, it was where she felt most safe and was trying to get back to you. I have much empathy for you and am so sadden with my own memory of finding my lil yorkie dead after being left outside all nite in a horrible thunderstorm and no shelter by my petsitter. <BR/>I do hope you understand that what happened is not your fault. It can be very difficult to grieve when loosing a pet, because most people in society don&#39;t really understand how close we are to our animal family and how much we miss them. I&#39;m very Sorry Donna for your loss. Please report with the local police how you found Salem. Its important. Also Help support the ASPCA. You can go online &amp; sign up as a supporter. A supporter doesnt mean you have to donate money you can support by just voting for animal rights &amp; be against animal cruelty. My prayers and much love.....Sunnysideuphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12961697117250041596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-7239809432912737122009-01-05T18:30:00.000-05:002009-01-05T18:30:00.000-05:00I would LOVE it if my husband took over the grocery shopping duties. I would act like I was offended, but I would be rejoicing inside. Just like the time I ran over the cord of the new vacuum and he said I could not touch it again. I acted upset, but insides was saying "yes! No more vacuuming! One less job to do on my overextended list! Hooray!!" <BR/><BR/>We go through the ibuprofen wars too. I have a hard time making my husband understand that his terrible shoulder pain will ease up if he would take the anti-inflammatory (since the pain is largely caused by the inflammation), thus allowing his body to begin healing. Go figure.Becky McNair Murraynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627813587431216816.post-65960803192579832592009-01-04T23:39:00.000-05:002009-01-04T23:39:00.000-05:00I am of the belief that animals have souls....so fly, Salem, fly. Pounce on the clouds and roll in fields of everlasting catnip!April Haywaldnoreply@blogger.com